Children experience emotions with the same intensity as adults, but with fewer tools to understand and manage them. This blog explores how you can help your child navigate those overwhelming moments when feelings feel too big to handle.
Between ages 5-12, children's emotional regulation skills are still developing. The part of their brain responsible for logical thinking (prefrontal cortex) won't fully mature until their mid-twenties. This means when emotions feel big, their ability to "think through" the feeling is naturally limited.
For teenagers (13-18), hormonal changes add another layer of complexity. Their emotional experiences are valid and intense, even when the trigger seems small to adult eyes.
🛠️ Gentle Strategies for Your Toolkit
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🏷️ Name It to Tame It Help your child identify emotions: "I can see you're feeling frustrated because your tower fell down." This simple acknowledgement helps their brain process the experience.
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🏠 Create a Calm-Down Space Designate a cosy corner with soft textures, favourite books, or calming activities. This isn't a punishment space—it's a retreat for emotional regulation.
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🗣️ Model Emotional Language Share your own feelings appropriately: "I'm feeling stressed about work, so I'm going to take some deep breaths." Children learn emotional vocabulary through observation.
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✅ Validate Before Problem-Solving Resist the urge to immediately fix or minimise. "That sounds really difficult" goes much further than "It's not that bad."
💡 DID YOU KNOW?
Children who learn emotional regulation skills early show better academic performance, stronger friendships, and improved mental health outcomes in adolescence. The time you invest in emotional conversations today builds resilience for their future.
About Katie
Katie is an Integrative Psychotherapist (MBACP) working with children, young people, and adults in Manchester. She specialises in trauma, attachment, and emotional development.
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